Just as a quick update, with the Save the Dates out about a month now we have heard about 9 people that will not be able to make the wedding (4 couples, 1 child). It is awful but I am relieved. One couple I am sad about but they have a VERY good reason. The Save the Date went out to 259 people (meaning number of people that would be invited with those STDs, dates, etc) and my dream goal is exacty 200 people which is what our minimum is (yes, I included FH and I). I think we are in good shape because so many people are from out of town. If, by chance we get a lot of "no's" I am not worried, we are well prepared with a b-list of people that definitely should have been on an a-list if we didn't both have such huge families.
Anyway, just something I was thinking about and thought I would share.