BTW- 8 down, 50 more to go!

Just as a quick update, with the Save the Dates out about a month now we have heard about 9 people that will not be able to make the wedding (4 couples, 1 child). It is awful but I am relieved. One couple I am sad about but they have a VERY good reason. The Save the Date went out to 259 people (meaning number of people that would be invited with those STDs, dates, etc) and my dream goal is exacty 200 people which is what our minimum is (yes, I included FH and I). I think we are in good shape because so many people are from out of town. If, by chance we get a lot of "no's" I am not worried, we are well prepared with a b-list of people that definitely should have been on an a-list if we didn't both have such huge families.
Anyway, just something I was thinking about and thought I would share.

What's the proper etiquette here?

So the Save the Dates went out - check. We have heard from 3 couples that they will not be able to make it (wheew, we way over booked that flight!). Here's my question: do I still send them invitations?

I don't want it to seem like I am now just asking for a gift but I didn't know if for some reason it is rude not to send the invite now?


Oh yeah, and Happy Halloween! I am working from home today and just realized that I have NO candy. Eeek!